Satsang with Dev OM: People ask me, what is love? This may help-
Q.: How will you define love? Why it hurts?
Dev: Love is an after-feeling of feeling enhancement of the soul or the joy of being in life for any reason. For example – being in a very comfortable and pampered situation, or being together with someone with whom there is a loving connection, or by feeling fulfilled and blessed. One cannot feel love until one feels the joy of being in life or the enhancement of soul.
Love does not hurt. Hurt feeling comes when one could not feel the fulfilment enhancement or joy with the same the person or situation. One cannot get the love feeling out of him/herself or from the other by force. That effort is always useless. Then mind projects that the other is the reason of the hurt feeling. But that is the trap! A base feeling of love does not depend on any other. One must not wait to receive love in order to activate or reciprocate his/her love. That is only the reciprocal love and not true love. One has to work on his/her reasons of feeling enhancement of the soul or the joy of being in life. At the same time one needs to ignore the mind-trap of making the other, a culprit, otherwise he/she would not be able to restore the state of love within. If need be then one must look for alternative ways to get the soul enhancement and the joy of life back into his/her life. Remember! It’s your life and you have to make it. Others’ can only help enhance it or destroying it – whatever kind of chance you offer them.